Today I want to talk about how to keep your child in their own bed. Let me first take a minute to explain that your child will be healthier, do better in school, be more pleasant throughout the day, and just feel better overall, if they are getting enough sleep (no matter where that may be… your bed, their bed or somewhere else). Now, we do not co-sleep (well- if the kids aren’t feeling well or if there is a thunderstorm, they do sleep in our rooms), but for the most part, we don’t co-sleep because I am a huge worrier! I am up all night worrying about if they are breathing or if a pillow is on their face or if they are sleeping all night or waking up. If I have to sneeze or cough- forget about it… I will just hold it because I don’t want to risk waking them.


All in all, I just don’t relax when they are in our bed. My husband won’t sleep, either, because he worries about rolling on top of them. I know that those things probably will never happen, but I just worry so much, so we all sleep better when they are in their bed and we are in our bed. With that being said… Different Strokes for Different Folks, so whatever works for your family is what works. Period! So- lets get back to keeping your child in their own bed. I’m not saying that my kids always sleep through the night, just that it is better for their development when they do. Trust me, my kids have all woken up for weeks or months at a time… at some point during their young lives. I just do my best to get them back onto their natural sleep patterns to help them be the healthiest and happiest that they can be! Here are the reasons that I want my child to STAY IN HIS/HER BED AT NIGHT:

Time for a Big-Kid Bed

I am uncomfortable knowing that our sons or daughter would be walking around when I am asleep. I just can’t have this.   What if they fell down the stairs? What if they got themselves a drink and aspirated without me knowing? What if they got into something dangerous (we keep the house child-proofed, but you just never know)? For these reasons, we have a rule that they must stay in their beds until 7:00. Kids need 10-12 hours of sleep a night. Younger toddlers and babies need even more. This is why we put our kids to bed at 7:00. Well-rested kids = happier kids. Well-rested kids = kids that can focus better. It just works for us. I don’t want to be ‘tucking them in’ five times a night. I have already had time lying down with each one of them and they need to go to bed.

Toddler girl sleeping soundly on the bed with mom

Toddler girl sleeping soundly on the bed with mom

A quick background on our family. Our older two boys always stay in bed (they are six and eight). I don’t know what we did differently, but they never attempted to come out of bed. The two younger ones are still in the learning process (2 and 4). I love the cuddle time with each one of our kids. This is why when they say “Mommy, will you lay with me?” I always say YES! However, laying with them and having them coming into my room and bed at all hours of the night are two totally different things. Moving on…

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